Please! Help me not to die! I can't "leave" while my husband is alive! He is completely helpless and has undergone more than 40 operations! – Nino, the wife who is slowly dying of heart disease, wails with tears in her eyes.
Even looking into the eyes of death, Nino Khachaturova thinks only of her husband. She devoted her whole life to him. She has spent a half of her life with Malkhaz in hospitals, where her beloved had had both legs cut off, piece by piece, over the years! He has undergone more than 40 operations!
And now Nino is also taken away in an ambulance once a month! Having forgotten about herself, having devoted her whole life to her husband, she is facing death now… Her heart… How has it held up all these years?
25 years ago, their family nest burned down in a terrible fire… Nino, Malkhaz, and their son wandered from one rented apartment to another… Now their home is a small room in a social shelter!
But that's not everything yet. Overcoming the pain and fear of death, Nino has to take care of more than just her husband... Everyone needs her care: her 85-year-old cancer-stricken mother Lamara, her son Zaza, who is suffering from an unspecified illness, and her only precious grandson Shmagi, the hope and meaning of Nino's life…
But the woman does not complain and does not reproach the Almighty for anything! On the contrary!
– No matter what kind of trouble we were in, God didn't let us die! I am grateful to Him for everything! – These are the words with which Nino, the true Christian, greets us with tears!
– Nino, calm down and tell me everything in order.
Nino: You know, sometimes it seems that misfortunes are haunting our family… But the Lord is merciful, He will never leave His child, everything has always been resolved in some Holy way. All my life, I have devoted myself to caring for my beloved husband, raising my son, and now my grandson as well. If you only knew how wonderful they are! The best in the world!
Now I'm so sick I can barely stand up… I live for my family and will take care of it until my last breath!
Until I was 50, I was healthy and worked hard, and then I started having seizures… I fainted almost every day and was taken away by an ambulance. For a long time I didn't want to go for a check-up, I didn't have any money. My heart was constantly hurting and my blood pressure was high. In the end, there was no choice. I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with a heart defect. I urgently need an operation, mitral valve replacement, otherwise the end will come…
I'm not afraid for myself, but what will happen to my men, and to my old, sick mother? How will they live without me? Who will take care of them?!
– Let me clarify your diagnosis…
Nino: I lost count of them a long time ago! Yes, I would not think about my sores, but now I am very weak, I can barely move, and every day it becomes more difficult for me… I can't even breathe or speak! I had two strokes, I have a heart failure, atrial fibrillation, because the heart valve does not work well and the blood does not circulate properly, the pleural cavity constantly collects fluid, which is periodically drained by injections in the hospital. In addition, iron-deficiency anemia, type 2 diabetes, fainting, blood pressure, every one and a half to two months I stay at the hospital.
– We are very sorry for you, Nino. Please tell us what kind of help you need at the moment.
Nino: Before the New Year, I was told that I needed an urgent operation, mitral valve replacement, I can die at any moment, and leave my family to their fate. State insurance only partially finances the operation, and we will have to pay the remaining amount. But there is no way to find money. We live very poor.
– Please tell us about your spouse, what happened to him?
Nino: (wiping away tears) When he was in the army, in Kaliningrad, during field exercises, they had to sleep on the bare ground. It was there that he froze his lower limbs and "earned" the disease, endarteritis and gangrene. Simply put, this is a disease of veins, narrowing of blood vessels, doctors could not help him. At the age of 27, his leg was cut off… Then another one… Poor thing, he has suffered so much. He stayed at hospitals for years… The legs were cut off in parts, hoping to save them, at least partially. It was horrible pain! He's all cut up and down! Under the arm, on the stomach, the doctors moved the arteries to restore blood circulation. At the age of 45, both legs were completely amputated. Even when I tried to sit him up with a pillow, he would fall on his side. He could not move his right hand; after a course of massages, his sensitivity was restored, but not completely… And he, too, had a stroke twice! At least he remained alive, thank God! What would he have done without me, poor man, I took care of him like a mother of a baby.
– Tell us how you met your husband, how you created a family.
Nino: After graduating from the High School, I was assigned to work in a grocery store. At first I worked as a saleswoman, then I was in charge of the department. Malkhaz lived nearby and often went shopping. That's how we met… We liked each other at first sight. It was a different time then, and my parents are very strict. We met in secret, then I waited for him from the army. He arrived ill, 10 months later. But that didn't stop us. We ran away. My parents didn't talk to me for a long time, but then, of course, we made up.
– Is there anybody helping you? Relatives, for example?
Nino: We have no one... there is an aunt, but she is old and sick. She buried her husband and needs help. The cursed disease has taken everyone from me. First my grandmother Aziz, then my father Vladimir, my beloved brother Gela – they all left young because of heart disease… It must be in our genes, – the poor woman sobs again. – My mother is also ill and very old; she has asthma, swollen legs, and recently she had a course of chemistry and a transfusion, and then did not eat anything, poor thing…
– Nino, how did you imagine your future, what plans did you make 45 years ago?
Nino: What kind of plans can I have? As everyone… I received a good education, and I had a good job. But my husband's illness marred our happy family life… Malkhaz and I were very much in love, and we still love each other. Of course, we wanted a lot of kids, a big family… But as you can see, it didn't work out, because of Malkhaz's illness, we only have one son, Zaza. God grant him health!
– What do you believe in? What do you see as salvation?
Nino: All that we have at the moment is that my husband and I are alive after two strokes, after the fire in our house, that we have a roof over our heads. That's all thanks to the grace of God! Our prayers and our Faith help us… And the fact that we are not left in the street, that we have a roof over our heads is also His work...
I'm very religious. In my current state, it is simply unimaginable to walk to the Church. But fortunately, our windows overlook the Church of St. Nicholas, you can hear the ringing of the bells. And I can attend the service, if not physically, then at least mentally.
– Do you believe that strangers can be good to you?
Nino: How can I not believe? What would have happened to us if it weren't for the good people? Throughout our lives, the Lord sends them to help us, even when we are forced to go out with Malkhaz, for paperwork, or for other needs, we are offered help by all: women, men, the elderly, young, and children… Young people pick up his stroller and lift him up the stairs even without asking! And you know, it warms the soul! Why do we live in this world, if not to support and help our neighbor?
Our neighbors also help. We are never alone! My neighbor Marina makes me injections when the sugar rises, but she has a sick husband on dialysis! And Nonna calls me mom, measures my blood pressure; she is always near when I need her. Levan, a wonderful person, wrote to you and told you about our trouble. I am so grateful to them all, I even don't know how to express it!
– Please tell us about your son.
Nino: Zaza is the kindest-hearted person… Only his health failed him. He used to work in a publishing house, but they fired him for reduction, and it's hard to find a job, you know. In addition, he has some strange symptoms, weakness, and something similar to hives. The nose swells, then the eyes, then the hands... It is very painful for him. But we never visited a doctor, there is no money for a visit, especially since we are all sick and constantly need medical help.
He is single and has been raising a son since the age of four. His wife left him with the child. We raise the boy, and she is not interested in his life. I don't blame anyone for anything, God is the judge of everything!
– Can I tell you more about your grandson?
Nino: Oooh, he's a wonderful boy – for the first time during our conversation, Nino's face lit up with a smile. – Everyone loves him, he is a good pupil, always tries to help me around the house. And most importantly, he has a loving, kind heart, he is affectionate to all of us and always shows care.
We've been through this recently, and I thought it would kill me. Shmagi fell ill withmeningitis and spent a month at infectious disease hospital. Three times, doctors drained his spinal fluid. And he recovered with God's help! I would definitely not have survived if something had happened to him!
– I'll talk to your grandson, if you don't mind. – Nino did not exaggerate the merits of her grandson. 16-year-old Shmagi struck me with his seriousness, courage, endurance and good breeding, these young people are the bright future of our country, our sunny Georgia!
– Shmagi, tell me a little about yourself. How do you study, what are your interests, and what are your plans for the future?
Shmagi (16 years old): I love football, I have been dreaming to become a professional football player since childhood!
– Who is your favorite football player?
Shmagi (16 years old): Ronaldo! I want to be famous like him, earn good money and help not only my family, but all those in need…
– What about school? What is your favorite subject?
Shmagi (16 years old): History is. I like to read. I'm a good student, and my grandparents are so happy… They are sick, and I always try to please them and help them in everything. They raised me, and I love them dearly. I want to find a part-time job and help my family, because even my dad is sick and can't work… All hope for me! I don't have a computer, and I was behind on my school curriculum, but I still tried to read and study at home.
– What do you need to be happy?
Shmagi (16 years old): We live in poverty, and football classes are expensive... Uniforms, boots… I found an inexpensive club on the Internet... I want to contact them. I hope they will accept me.
– What kind of girls do you like, have you already found someone? At what age do you think you will start a family?
Shmagi (16 years old): Yet, I can't say that I particularly like someone... Well, I do, of course, but it is not serious… I will have a family when I am strong and achieve my goals. And my wife will be the most beautiful, modest, and caring. Someone who will love our children and never leave them… I will do everything to ensure that my family does not need anything!
– What would you wish for your peers?
Shmagi (16 years old): Be purposeful, always achieve your goals, and do not back down, under any circumstances! Fight for your dream. Well, and I wish them health and success, of course!
– Thank you for an interesting conversation, Shmagi, you are a good boy, we wish you success in everything!
Back to our conversation, Nino. You live in a social shelter. Tell me, how did you get here? How do you live here?
Nino: I already told you that there was a fire in our house 25 years ago. A gas cylinder exploded, and we were left with absolutely nothing, in the street. We rented an apartment for a long time, while we had the opportunity. Then the rent became too much for us. Then we were very lucky to get a place here in the shelter. Everything is God's will… Everything you see here does not belong to us: the old TV, the gas stove, and the refrigerator is the property of the shelter…
– What's your family's income?
Nino: We receive pensions of 155 lari, me, Malkhaz and my mother… And a social allowance of 250 lari… And when Shmagi was hospitalized, we had to take a loan to cover our pension, which we will pay until 2023… Now my husband and I only receive half the amount… We eat very modestly, potatoes, pasta… I need 14 different medicines, thank God, among them there are those that I can buy for 1 lari, under the state preferential program, but not all, unfortunately…
– A loan? How is it that possible in your situation… Tell me, what is your biggest dream?
Nino: Yes, imagine a loan, and I am grateful for that, otherwise there would have had absolutely nothing pay for the boy's treatment.
I don't allow myself to dream, I just pray to God that he will let me live a little longer. I am so needed by my loved ones, especially my husband, Malkhaz. He is legless and helpless... – Nino cries again.
– How did you come across our Fund? Why did you decide to contact us?
Nino: For several years, I have been your beneficiary and I am very grateful to you for everything. You regularly supplied us with food, and a nurse came to see me. You have done so much good for us, and I will pray for you until my last breath…
I would not have dared to address you. It was my neighbor, Levan, a kind young man, who wrote you and thus gave me a chance to save myself. God grant him health! May God bless you and everyone who has anything to do with your Fund, all your generous friends who take their neighbor's pain so much to heart. The Lord will never leave you. With your hands, He does good on earth!
Let's all open our hearts to compassion and mercy, and not leave Nino Khachaturovaand her family alone with the disaster that has overtaken them! By helping a person who is in trouble we make this world kinder and better. It is extremely important to know that there are good people. It becomes less scary to live and a hope for a miracle!
Help seriously ill Nino, give her a chance to survive, and stay longer with her beloved family, which needs her care so much. Nino urgently needs surgery, mitral valve replacement, treatment and a lot of medications.
And also call her, cheer her up and give her hope for tomorrow. Tel: 591 60 40 76. Number of the spouse, Malkhaz. Nino has no phone. Address: 13 Archil Mepe st., apt. 3, Didi Digomi, Tbilisi.
And be sure to repost our publication. Let all your friends know about the grief of Nino Khachaturova! It is very important.
God gives us the opportunity to take care of people who are not able to do it themselves. Unhappy people are given to us from above so that we can prove our faith to the Almighty not in words but in deeds!
Friends, there is one more request, if you know about the misfortune of a neighbor or friend, do a Charitable deed, write to us by e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Together we have helped many miserable people! Let us support Nino too, as nobody is immune to an unhappy destiny! And, who knows, maybe one day we will also need help from strangers!
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