When only grief is all around, and there is nowhere to seek help!
When only grief is all around, and there is nowhere to seek help!
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"If mom takes a step away and Ramaz cannot touch her, he will start crying heartbreakingly."
Do you know how it happens? You live a happy life - you adore someone, you want to live with him all your life in grief and joy, in illness and health, till death do you part. And then it is not death at all, but someone else who parts you! It does not matter how it was before or how it will be later, if you just want to die right now... Either because you were betrayed, or because you feel your insignificance, that you have been exchanged for another, or because everything has already lost its meaning.
When Lamzira’s husband left her with their two children, she wanted to commit suicide. Because she doted on him, she loved him most of all - more than children, more than life. It seemed to her that she would not last even one day without him. But she managed to last. Not even a day or a month, but seven years... And now she lives only for the sake of her children. Only for them. Because if something happens to her, her 10-year-old sick son Ramaz will certainly not last without her. Not for a day, but even for a few hours. This is what holds the young woman together.
I don't even know where to start describing the troubles of this family. How to highlight the most important problem, the most acute pain. Single mother Lamzira, her 12-year-old daughter Rita and 10-year-old sick son Ramaz have one problem - it’s hopelessness. Social allowance and disability pension are barely enough for diapers and utilities. They eat food from the social canteen. They live in an unfinished house and have no idea how to go on living - whether it is necessary to live at all.
They call these metal-lined walls home.
Using the bathroom is at least dangerous.
- When I see all that, I think that it’s probably easier to say what you don’t need...
Lamzira: You are right. The mere sight of our house shocked you, and what is happening within its walls will make you cry... My husband left it unfinished and left for another seven years ago. He didn't kick us out of here, he said: “Keep living here”. Living is a strong word. In seven years, I managed to make this place livable. I fixed the walls and the ceiling. The rest we either picked up somewhere, or found, or kind people gave it to us.
- How do you manage to cope alone with a sick child in your arms?
Lamzira: In no way! Every year it is getting harder and harder for Ramaz to live. When you have a little child, they tell you: "He will grow up - and it will become easier for you." But in the case of Ramaziko, everything is vice versa. He is gaining weight, his temper becomes worse, and I get weaker... Now Rita is growing up to help me, she loves her brother very much, but I cannot leave her alone with him. If Ramazi does not see me or does not hear me, he starts yelling. So, he is literally chained to me all the time. If I need to go somewhere, I just carry him on my back with me...
Ramaz exist only when his mom is next to him
- What is wrong with Ramaz?
Lamzira: I had a difficult pregnancy, and there was a risk of having a sick child. But my husband and I knew sure: no matter who was born and how sick he was, he would be our beloved child. Ramaz was born prematurely, and the doctors immediately diagnosed him with cerebral palsy. I know it cannot be cured, but we took care of him. It was easy to do it together. Ramaz’s father used to help me a lot. He always carried him in his arms. Sometimes it seemed to me that he paid too much attention to his son. But then, when he left and we found ourselves alone, everything became worse than ever. It was hard for me, sometimes it was just unbearable. And it's not just about money. It’s a about support.
There is plywood instead of walls and old carpets instead of flooring
- How do you manage to cope?
Lamzira: I need at least 100 GEL per month for diapers for my child. He cannot do anything himself - I feed him and dress him. He hasn’t even said a word in his entire life. He only hums, and I understand what he wants from these sounds. Is he hungry, thirsty, or did he just get dirty. Do you know what I'm most afraid of? Of a common cold! If he is sick, it is the end of the world. It is so hard for him, it hurts so much that Rita and I also cry looking at him. Each of his colds costs us at least 200 GEL!
"Please, don't get sick, mom will get sick instead of you"
- Would you like to say anything to mothers who are in a similar situation as you?
Lamzira: Yes! Dear moms! We are the strongest people on the planet! We, mothers of sick children, are the toughest. We are stronger than iron. God gave us the power of ten women and men before giving us the chosen children. Even if you are left alone, you should know that you have wings. Your wings are your children. They will not let you fall. Just hold on! And even if your closest one betrays you, you should know that help will come from complete strangers.
"We, mothers of sick children, are the strongest creatures on the entire planet!"
- It gives me goosebumps. Thank you. These words will inspire many people. The abandoned ones, lonely and insulted...
Lamzira: When there is no other choice, remaining weak means to die. And I bring up my Rita on the same principles.
Rita (12-year-old): I love my mother very much! She is my role model. I will do my best to make her feel good!
"Children are my wings, they don't let me fall"
- How do you make her happy now?
Rita: My mother had a birthday just recently - on October 16. I saved up the money that she gave me to school for lunch for an entire year. I saved everything and gave her a scarf and a cake with candles for her birthday. Do you know how happy she was? She was happy like a little child! She laughed and cried. She hugged me - she almost broke all my bones. That's how I love my mother.
"Don't cry, baby, mom will come soon, I'm with you"
- Can you babysit your brother so that your mother can have a rest?
Rita: I'd love to, but Ramaz only wants mother. And if mom needs to go out, I entertain him as much as I can. I sing songs to him, and I hold him in my arms all the time. But if he feels that his mother is far away, he is throwing a tantrum... He is so helpless when he cries.
Mom is the whole world for Ramaz!
- Lamzira, I know we can talk a lot about the problems your family has, but let's focus on the most important and vital ones so that our kind readers can take part in solving them.
Lamzira: I don’t know what a common practice is here. I need building materials, a gas water heater, a heater, and a stove. We simply won’t be able to survive winter in the cold. Ramaz cannot get ill. Even an insignificant cold can be fatal for him. There are also some less significant things that we just dream about. This is a TV, a computer for Rita, a bed, foodstuffs, diapers... Well, we'll go too far.
Rita: Can I also tell you about my dream? I dream of a hairdryer. Do you know what a hairdryer is? You dry your hair with it. I want my mother and I to take care of ourselves like real girls. With shampoos, and all kinds of creams, so that we smell good. No one wants to make friends with me, and sometimes it seems to me that if I take care of myself like other girls, I will have friends!
- I’m sure you will get new friends after people know and read about you. Would you like to correspond with them or communicate by phone?
Rita: With my peers? With adults? Yes, of course! Is it possible? I'll write to them! Oh, it’s so nice.
She dreams of a hairdryer, but she doesn't even have a proper bathroom!
Friends, this family has no one else to ask for help. Complete strangers are their last hope. Lamzira worries about her sick son and teenage daughter, because malnutrition and cold can cause health problems.
This kind Georgian family needs any help: food, hygiene products, building materials, a gas stove, a water heater, and a stove. It would be great if we manage to buy them beds, a tablet, clothes, and a hairdryer! With our joint efforts we can help this unfortunate family, as we managed to help thousands of families in Georgia, who had been hanging between life and death.
You can visit them and provide them all possible help. Their address is: Batumi, 16 Markoz Ajareli Str (house near the river).
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We are sure that all together we will manage to change their life.
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