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calendar September 30, 2020

-Little Lile (3-year-old) is wondering. And keeps breaking her mother Marika’s (22-year-old) heart asking: Why? Why can’t he play with me?
Little Deniz is one year and three months old, but he cannot sit, walk, talk, and he can only be fed by a bottle. His poor mother Marika has only semolina porridge to feed him, but besides food her son constantly needs medical aid – endless analyses, examinations, manipulations. And it all costs a lot!

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 Oh, Lord, give me the strength to struggle for my son’s health! – Marika, a single mother (22-year-old), bitterly cries. Thank God, my mother-in-law is by me, otherwise I have no idea how I would cope. A grandmother of two little angels – Lile(3-yer-old) and Deniz (1,3-year-old) – Meri (43-year-old) does her best to support her daughter-in-law, but she doesn’t know where to get the enormous amounts of money necessary for her grandson’s treatment.

 Friends, our sunny Georgia is a homeland of the kindest people in the world, who will never leave their neighbors in trouble and who always have their souls open for compassion. Little Deniz needs help right now, and we are sure it was God who brought his almost desperate family to our Fund.

 -Marika tell me, please, about your son’s disease. 

Mari: When I was still pregnant the doctors told me that the fetus had stopped growing and developing. When my Denis was born, he was tiny like a kitten, his weight was 2.600 kg and he suffered from severe sepsis. He spent 25 days in an intensive care unit. I thought I would turn crazy! But God is merciful, my son was discharged from hospital and we were told to take brain scan after three months. We took the scan. I knew he had hemorrhages and excess fluid in the ventricles of the brain, but I did not even suspect that the problems would be so serious. The scan showed that my son was mentally retarded, and nobody knew if there was any chance to help him. He is one year and three months old now, but he cannot walk, sit, talk, he can’t even hold a spoon in his hands, he can only cry, poor baby.

– What is the prognosis for him, and what can be done right now to help the child?

Marika: His treatment is out the question yet. Recently the state has financed a healing massage course for Deniz. As for the rest, the doctors avoid touching him because the exact diagnosis is not known yet, and when treating one problem, it is important not to trigger a new one. We constantly undergo medical examinations, once in three month we have to take brain scan, we take various tests all the time. All of them cost a fortune, and each time it gets harder for me to pay. We have already borrowed from everyone we could. Now my son has to take a number of tests, the total cost of which is 300 GEL. Where should we get this money? If only my husband would be by me…

– What happened, Marika? What is the reason that your husband is not with you?

Marika: It is a sad story, I prefer not to talk about it. It happened so, that he found himself in prison. I had no money to hire a proper lawyer. I know for sure he is not guilty, and he does not deserve it. He is so hardworking! Such a caring father! 

– Can you tell me how you met each other?

Marika: I was a school student at that time, and my husband worked abroad, first in Spain and then in Antalya. He is a hard worker – everything you see in this home is the result of his work! His motto is: “Bring everything home”. We never used to be rich, but we’ve never been in need either. The children always had proper things to eat and proper things to wear. We met at a classmate’s website (laughs), we had been texting and dating for a long time, he used to make wonderful presents and surprises to me. The day we got married was the happiest day of my life! Now I am left alone with our sick son in my arms and I probably won’t see him for 5 years. I have no idea how I will manage to raise our children alone.

– What is the most difficult thing in raising a sick child?

Marika: In my case the hardest thing is uncertainty. I don’t know what to expect. Is it possible at all to put my son on his feet?, Will he ever become a well-functioning child? And there is a permanent fear. The fear that I will not have enough money to help our son.

– What would you advise mothers in the same dire situation as yours?

Marika: To keep standing firm and not give in to discouragement. Because we are about to start a hard fight for the health and well-being of our children. We should be strong for their sake.

– Have you ever thought that such misfortune would happen to you?

Marika: You know, I have never dreamed of being rich. The only thing I want is a quiet family life. I want my children never to be in need and always have enough food to eat and proper things to wear. We used to live like that – my husband used to keep us this way. But suddenly all came down on me. My son’s illness, all those terrible things. I’m holding up because I know my children need me.

– Does anybody help you? Parents or relatives?

Marika: My parents live in Kobuleti and the only thing they can help me with is natural cow milk for my children. They can’t do more, since they are socially disadvantaged, and they themselves need help. We live together with my mother-in-law – she is a wonderful woman. I permanently have to visit doctors together with Deniz, and she stays with my elder daughter. But my Lile is a very capricious and willful girl. My mother-in-law used to work gathering tea at tea plantations, which was a very hard job. But now, because of the pandemic, she can’t. My father-in law died several years ago, but our relatives send us potatoes and fruits from the village sometimes. That’s all they can do for us. You know, there is unemployment there and rural life is hard. But I do not complain. As a matter of fact, I need a lot of money for my son, such as doctors’ examination, and I haven’t got that money, I’d like to die, for I can’t help him.

– We are so sorry! And did you address anybody for help? The local government, for instance?

Marika: I keep on visiting various authorities and witting applications. The baby needs lots of things – food, diapers, medications, examinations. And I have my eldest daughter too, who also needs food and clothes. 

I can’t say that state authorities do not help us at all, but unfortunately, this help is not enough. They partly financed the MRI scan, the massage course, but it is not enough. They do not finance analyses, and we have to send our genetic test to the USA. We have to pay 2000 Euros to get the results within two months – free results will be ready only in 18 months. But in our case every second counts.

– In what do you see the salvation? 

Marika: I always pray at home, our family is very religious, my husband and my mother-in-law too. It’s natural! If you don’t believe in the Higher Power and miracles, how will you cope with all the trials that fate sends to us?

– Do you believe in the kindness of strangers?

Marika: Yes, of course! You can say a lot just looking in a person’s eyes, see if the person is kind or wicked, empathic or not. I remember, when I used to work as a salesperson in a shop an unknown woman gave me a scarf because she liked me. It was so nice! Attention and warmth are the most important things in life.

– Marika, how did you find yourself in this building? 

Marika: These rooms are arbitrarily occupied by socially disadvantaged families. We started living here 6 years ago. A relative told us there was one free room. The room is too small, but we have no other place to go. And we live in a constant fear that they will let us out. What can we do? We have no place of our own to live.

– What is your family income? What’s it enough for?

Marika: Enough? Not really! We get 280 GEL of social allowance. The food, diapers, medications, utility costs… It means that we only have potatoes to eat.

– What do your children eat? What is their everyday diet?

Marika: The eldest likes fried potatoes and she misses cutlets so much… I give semolina porridge with cow milk to the baby, who is bottle-fed. We had no money to buy formula, so we had to give up purchasing it. When Lile used to go to the kindergarten it was much easier, they were fed well – they had meat and fish for dinner there, and now they give us only cereals and pasta.

– Can I talk to your daughter, please? Lile, you are such a beautiful girl! Do you go to the kindergarten?

Lile (3-year-old): I used to go, but now I do not. Mom says the kindergarten is closed. I enjoyed playing with the children, it was fun, and there were so many toys there! 

– Do you have a favorite toy?

Lile (3-year-old): I have a doll – my daddy gave it to me! Look how pretty it is! She sleeps with me. But I prefer playing with the children in the yard, play in the sand or tags. If I only had a scooter it would be much more fun. Almost everybody has one, and I haven’t (the little girl heavily sighs). I am dreaming of it so much! I ask mommy to buy it for my birthday. And she says, she has got no money now, but she will buy it as soon as she has it. 

– When is your birthday, Lile?

Lile (3-year-old): Mom says it will be very soon!

Marika: On 6th of October. But I am not sure about the scooter. I’d like to get money for the analyses… – the young woman sighs heavily.

– Don’t worry, baby, dreams always come true! And who makes your beautiful braids? 

Lile (3-year-old): Mommy! She is the most beautiful and the kindest mom in the world! But my brother often cries, his head aches and mommy always goes to the doctor together with him! I want to be a doctor, to cure my brother, so my mother will not have to take him anywhere anymore. I want to play with him, but he does not want either to walk or to talk. Mommy says he is ill. Ma’am, can you help him?

– Believe me, your brother will get well for sure! Marika, your daughter dreams of a scooter, and what is your dream?

Marika: In my most cherished dreams I see my son healthy, and my husband being by me. I dream of a calm life and health of my babies. I need neither money, nor luxury. Let everything go well in our family.

– What particular help do you need most of all?

Marika: I can only think about my son now. We should have taken the analyses long-long ago, but I cannot get the necessary amount – 300 GEL. We permanently need the food, diapers, analyses! We cannot cope with that. 

There is another big problem – we have no gas stove. In winter we light a wood stove, and in summer we use a gas bottle to make food. It is very dangerous. I don’t sleep at night, because it seems that I feel gas smell. If you only could help us with that, so that the children would not breathe this terrible smell. 

We would be happy to get any help. I know your Fund has many good friends, you have already helped so many people.

Lord knows, I ask only for the sake of Deniz. I can’t cope alone, my little son needs your help so much!

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 Friends, the Meladze family found themselves in an extremely difficult situation. Mother Marika has to cope with her son Deniz’s (1.6-year-old) disease alone. The illness of a child is the heaviest trial for any family, especially when you are short of money.

 Little Deniz is one year and three months old, but he cannot sit, crawl, talk, and he can only eat from a bottle. Friends, he needs your help! His medical examinations and analyses cost a fortune. The family urgently needs diapers, food, medications. 

 You can call Marika and support her with kind words! She will be very happy! Her phone is: 571 33 22 22.

You can also visit the Meladze family at the following address: Batumi, Tbeti Street, Block 12, apartment 16.

 Please repost our publication. Let your friends know about the grief of this family! It’s extremely important!

God gives us chances to care about people who are unable to take care of themselves. Those poor people are sent to us by heaven so that we could prove not by words, but in deeds that we trust in God!

Friends, there is one more request – if you know about the misfortune of a neighbor or friend do a godly deed, drop us an email at: office-fsp@fsp.ge 

 Our Fund’s accounts are: 

#GE15TB7194336080100003

#GE42LB0115113036665000

#GE64BG0000000470458000 

(Purpose: Meladze family). 

You can also transfer money from our website.

It is also possible to transfer money from Nova Technology, TBCpay and ExpressPay terminals. (You can read more about rights and responsibilities of the Fund following the link https://goo.gl/GY2Gus )

We have already helped many disadvantaged people! Let’s support Meladze family, as no one is immune to bad luck! And who knows, maybe someday we ourselves will need help of strangers!

One call saves life – 0901 200 270

You hugged my children and held them to your heart

– Mom, can we buy everything today? – asks little Lile.

– Yes, dear, – Marika smiles.

– Do we need a cart?

– Even two or three carts!

– Mom, let’s go where the chocolates are.

– Okay, sweetheart.

– Follow me, Mom, I know where they are. I want these, we will take a lot home. And Denis will eat them too. Denis wants chocolate too, doesn’t he, Mom? We need cookies too. I know where they are, let’s go, mom!

Lile really enjoyed her big shopping day. On that day, the Meladze family left Batumi “Smart” supermarket with five packs of diapers, a substantial supply of hygiene and cleaning products, and food. All that thanks to you, our dear readers!

For more than a year, Marika has been raising her young children – Lile and Denise – alone. It happened so that her husband ended up behind bars. Not only has the family completely lost their income, livelihood, but one-year-old Denis also has serious health problems (see our previous post: https://chernovetskyifund.ge/en/projects/634-meladze/).

Marika was completely lost, so she addressed the Chernovetskyi Fund for help. We learned what happened to her next from our conversation.

Marika: It is such a difficult time now, due to the pandemic, lots of people are left without work. Every family has its own problems. I did not expect such attention, warmth, participation… the fact that our problems may be important to other people. Previously, my husband used to solve all the problems and provide the family. But how can you dare ask strangers for that? But when a person is left alone, he needs support. There are moments in life when you are weak, defenseless and extremely vulnerable. And we all need care, attention, respect – you know, at such a moment you especially need that. And the readers gave me and my children such a feeling. It’s like you hugged us and held us to your heart

  I am grateful to you that for a while I stopped worrying about money, thinking how to keep my children. I stopped being nervous that diapers are running out. This problem with diapers used to arise at the end of every week. Denise needs three diapers per day, and Lile needs one at night. It would be great to completely wean her off diapers, but I have not managed so far. I still have two large packages left, and I don’t have to worry for now.

I didn’t buy any sweets for Lile for about a year – I used to buy only the most essential things. What could I do? And then I suddenly told Lile that we were going shopping to Smart supermarket. Lile got up early, she couldn’t wait to go with me. A friend of our family took us there by his car and then we brought all the purchases home. We had a very long shopping list, we went through different sections. It was such a holiday for a child! Such joy! Most of all she was interested in the confectionery department, of course. Although she offered sweets to my mother-in-law and me later, we did not take any. Let the child rejoice it from the heart, because for so long she has been deprived of such joys. But Denis doesn’t eat sweets.  

–  Did you make new acquaintances, friends after our publication?

Marika: Most of those who helped us preferred to stay anonymous. I am grateful to everyone who responded, and I would be glad to express my gratitude to them personally. May our joy be rewarded to you hundredfold!

  After the post was published, I met a woman named Maya, who gave me very good advice: to visit David Tatishvili’s clinic in Tbilisi. As you know, my son Denise has cerebral palsy. We took free rehabilitation courses three times, but it was all in vain. At the Tatishvili clinic, we were prescribed medications and massages, which definitely have a good effect on my baby. We keep following these recommendations and go to massages to Ozurgeti.

– Do you involve Lile in taking care of Denise?

Marika: My daughter is so funny. Talking to his brother from the height of her three years. As if she was already an adult. When I bathe him, she says: “Don’t cry baby.” She passes me his clothes, a towel, entertains him with phone games while I cook.

– Lile, could I talk to you for a minute?

(She approaches, looks curiously).

– Can you change diapers to Deny?

Lile: No, ma’am. But I know when his diaper is full or when he has already done something.

– Do you like the new gas stove? Do you help your mommy to cook?

Lile: I used to store my toys there, but mommy doesn’t let me do that anymore.

Marika: It’s true! When they just brought the stove, and it was not yet installed, Lile used the oven as a cabinet for her toys. Now she has lost this opportunity (laughs).

  But cooking takes less time now. Of course, with our meager budget the culinary delights are out of question. I make just simple, affordable meals, as healthy as possible. Fried and boiled potatoes, cauliflower, soups, cereals. After shopping in “Smart” we even bought meat several times.

Lile loves watching me in the kitchen. She brings a chair, sits down with a doll and comments my actions to her doll: “You see what steam comes from the pan, it will be ready soon, and we will eat. Do you want to eat raw pasta? What a silly one!”

  I don’t bother with the gas bottle anymore. You saved me from the hassle and fuss.

– Our post is like an alarm bell – everyone can hear it. Was there any feedback from the local authorities?

Marika: Nothing specific for us so far. As socially unprotected, we receive a food ration for each family member – rice, tomato, sunflower oil, etc. Things used to be better before. We could take lunch every day. Serving per person was 250 grams. Lile liked that food: mashed potatoes, cutlets, lobio, pilaf, pea soup … Now, because of the coronavirus, we get only rations.

 I have good news: a month ago Denis was entitled to a pension. They should have done it long ago. To be honest we haven’t got money yet, but it’s a matter of time.

– What do you need most right now? The project is ongoing. Our readers can join it and make their input.

Marika: Everything is okay with appliances now. I will be glad and grateful if someone has an opportunity to help us with food, diapers, wet wipes, medications. We are not picky in food. Cereals, cookies. Lile will be happy.

  I can’t go to work yet. We need to take my son for the examinations, massages – help my boy, relieve his and our suffering. He is in my arms almost all the time.

  My husband is aware of the events taking place in our life. He is very much worried that he himself cannot help us. He is deeply moved that so many people showed their empathy, did not leave us in trouble. Lile doesn’t know that her dad is serving time. She thinks he left for Tbilisi on business. We told her so as not to traumatize the child. She keeps asking me the same question: “When will daddy come?”

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Marika is only 22 years old, but she managed to face many problems – to find out how to keep her family, fight for her son’s health … Life is unpredictable, none of us knows what awaits them next in this journey. Some of us get a heavy burden to carry. Today Marika has had such a test. Our support helped her to perk up, gain strength for further struggle, to complete her mission – being a mother. This wonderful young woman takes a punch of fate alone, she is responsible for two little angels. Let us support her – with our warm words, with our deeds. Let’s feel our heart is filling with joy. Isn’t it great to be a cause, a source of happy changes in the life of another person?! It’s a kind of magic, which all of us are able to make. Try to. Call Marika. See the Meladze phone number below.

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If you have a heavy heart because of everyday problems or unresolved issues, as a distraction just see our posts on Facebook, or better dial the number of any of our beneficiaries. Call them and you will forget about your problems. Because they are nothing in comparison with the problems of those to whom you opened your good heart and came to help in the most difficult moment of their life.

Our problems are noting if compared… Here are true misfortunes, in front of your eyes! Just thank the Lord for what you have. You are the happiest person in the world! Remember this and help those in need.

Unfortunately, problems of this and other families do not end here and now… Therefore, from time to time, look through the stories of unhappy people on our website, talk to them. Every time you dial the Phone of an unhappy person, God is blessing you! For sure! Go on helping these families! This is the best service to the Lord!

Your kindness is a chance for yourself to be happy in everything!

Friends, thanks again to all!

Our Fund’s accounts are:

#GE15TB7194336080100003

#GE42LB0115113036665000

#GE64BG0000000470458000

(purpose: The Meladze family)

You can also transfer money from our website. https://chernovetskyifund.ge/en/projects/634-meladze/

It is also possible to transfer money from ОРРА, TBCpay and ExpressPay terminals. Find our Fund under “Charity” section (You can read more about rights and responsibilities of the Fund following the link https://goo.gl/GY2Gus).

One call saves life – 0901 200 270.

Let’s believe that helping others, we take care of our own souls and draw closer to Lord through the suffering that we share with others!

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